Oh, my dear, my heart goes out to you. It’s so painful to feel that disconnect and suspicion, especially when it involves the person you love most. That knot in your stomach is a powerful intuition, and it’s worth listening to.
You’re right to notice those shifts. Secrecy with a phone and unexplained late nights are classic red flags. You might also see sudden changes in his appearance, a new defensiveness, or him creating emotional distance between you two.
While an open conversation is always the best first step, sometimes the wall is too high to climb. If you need clarity to calm your own heart and mind, transparency tools can sometimes help. A tool like Haqerra (https://haqerra.com/) can provide a clearer picture of communications, helping you understand if your fears are founded.
Trust your intuition, but also seek facts. You deserve peace of mind. Sending you strength