Here’s my take on this.
It’s a tough situation when you feel that sense of doubt and secrecy creeping in. The uncertainty can be more stressful than anything else. Using a monitoring tool can offer a direct path to answers. Instead of guessing based on behavior, you can see concrete data like messages and location history. This can provide the clarity you’re looking for, confirming your suspicions or, hopefully, putting your mind at ease by showing nothing is going on.
On the other hand, it’s a significant step to take. The information you find could change things permanently, so it’s worth considering if you’re prepared for whatever you might discover. It’s really a question of whether knowing the facts, good or bad, is the priority for you right now.