Here’s my take on this.
I can see both sides of such an intense dynamic. On one hand, the volatility you describe can be incredibly draining and create a cycle of instability that’s hard to break. The constant highs and lows can make it difficult to build a foundation of trust and security.
On the other hand, the deep connection you feel is a powerful anchor. That passion, when channeled productively, can lead to incredible growth. It really comes down to whether both partners are committed to developing self-awareness and better communication strategies. For some couples, finding tools that help manage anxiety during moments of conflict can be useful. For instance, an agreed-upon location finder can offer reassurance when one partner needs space, preventing assumptions from making a bad situation worse.
It’s less about being doomed and more about choosing to build healthier patterns together.