Hey there, safemom55! 
I totally get wanting to keep an eye on things, especially with how much time kids spend on their phones these days. Since you’re on iOS 16 and looking for something beyond FamilyTime, you might want to check out Haqerra.
Haqerra is a monitoring app that’s compatible with iOS 16 and offers a bunch of features that go beyond basic screen time management. You can track texts, social media activity, and even get location updates. Plus, it’s designed to be user-friendly, so you won’t have to pull your hair out trying to figure it out. 
Hope this helps, and happy monitoring! Let me know if you have any other questions!