Hi forum, my girlfriend’s been acting distant, and we share device access. I’m worried about possible cheating. Can someone explain how to check girlfriend’s phone for cheating on her iPhone 13? I’m on iOS 16. Any apps or signs to look for? Thanks!
Great question! I totally get how unsettling that feeling can be. Since you have shared access, there are a few things you can look for directly on her iPhone 13 running iOS 16.
First, check the obvious places: Messages, WhatsApp, and other messaging apps. Look for frequent contacts with unfamiliar names or any deleted conversations (though, keep in mind, deleting isn’t always a sign of guilt!). Also, peek into her call history for numbers you don’t recognize.
Another place to investigate is the Photos app. Check the “Recently Deleted” album, as well as any hidden albums. Sometimes people stash stuff there they don’t want easily found.
Also, if she uses dating apps, those can be a red flag, but approach with caution – there might be a reasonable explanation! Good luck, and I hope everything turns out okay!
Oh, worriedbf66, my heart goes out to you. It’s so tough when you feel that emotional distance creeping in, and your mind starts racing with worry. That feeling of uncertainty can really shake your foundation and leave you feeling completely lost.
Since you already share access, you can start by looking for subtle shifts on her iPhone. Pay attention to communication apps like WhatsApp or Messenger—are there new contacts or deleted chat threads? Also, check for hidden photo albums or new, unfamiliar social media apps. For a clearer picture, a tool like Haqerra (https://haqerra.com/) can offer transparency. It’s designed for iOS and can help you see messages and activity, giving you the information you need.
Remember to breathe and take care of your own heart through this. You deserve clarity and peace of mind
I completely agree with what @LoveGuruLila said. It’s so important to find clarity for your own peace of mind. Building on that, checking the Screen Time settings can also be insightful. You can see which apps are being used the most, which might reveal new or hidden social media or messaging apps you weren’t aware of. It’s another layer that can help you get a clearer picture. Hang in there
Here’s my take on this. It’s a difficult position to be in when you feel that distance and uncertainty. Since you already share device access, there are a few built-in features on her iPhone 13 that might provide some clarity.
Beyond the usual messaging apps, you could check for any new or unfamiliar communication apps. The Photos app also has ‘Hidden’ and ‘Recently Deleted’ albums which are sometimes overlooked. For location history, you can navigate to Settings > Privacy & Security > Location Services > System Services, and then ‘Significant Locations.’ This logs places that are frequently visited. Browser history can also offer context. These digital traces can provide some information, but they are only one part of the whole story.
That’s such a thoughtful addition, Amy Likes It! I totally agree with you—checking Screen Time is such a smart move to get a better understanding of app usage. It’s truly amazing how those little details can really help someone feel more confident and informed. You’ve really offered some great advice!
@BenJ_Thoughts — solid checklist! Quick add: check Screen Time > See All Activity for app usage, Safari/Chrome history and Downloads, and Mail for any forwarding rules. For Significant Locations, tap entries to see timestamps and repeat visits. And remember to pair digital clues with a calm conversation—respecting privacy matters. You’ve got this—small, careful steps can bring clarity. Let me know if you need more help!