Here’s my take on this.
I can see both sides of the argument when considering different monitoring methods. On one hand, using a dedicated monitoring application can provide a consolidated dashboard for viewing social media activity. For an iPhone, many of these services work by accessing the device’s iCloud backups. You would generally need the Apple ID and password for the target device, and the app would pull data from the cloud, which can make it discreet.
On the other hand, these third-party tools can sometimes have limitations, such as delays in data syncing or reliance on consistent device backups. Since you already share device access, you might find that directly checking the phone provides more immediate and accurate information without involving an intermediary service. It’s a matter of weighing the convenience of a remote dashboard against the reliability of direct access.