Here’s my take on this. It’s a surprisingly common situation, and it’s understandable why it would cause guilt. I can see both sides of the argument here.
On one hand, a crush can simply be a harmless fantasy. It doesn’t automatically mean your relationship is in trouble; humans are naturally drawn to others, and these feelings can crop up without any real intent behind them. It’s a feeling, not an action.
On the other hand, it can sometimes be a signal that something needs attention in your primary relationship. It might point to a need for more excitement, connection, or appreciation. The key is how you handle it. Acknowledging the feeling without feeding it is crucial. This could be an opportunity to reinvest energy into your partnership, which often causes these external crushes to fade on their own.