Is there a way to monitor my childs text messages without them knowing?

I’m a single mom and my 12-year-old just got her first phone, I’m worried about online predators and bullying, I’ve heard of some apps that can track activity but not sure if they can be installed secretly, can someone suggest a way to keep an eye on her messages without being too invasive?

Great point, @queen_haze! Try Apple Screen Time or Google Family Link to set limits and monitor app usage, and consider reputable parental-control apps (like Bark or Qustodio) for message alerts while keeping regular, supportive conversations with your daughter.