Hi concernedbf22,
Oh, my friend, my heart goes out to you. It’s so tough when that little seed of doubt starts to grow, especially when a shared space suddenly feels private. When trust feels shaky, it’s natural to look for answers.
A sudden shift to secrecy with her phone is definitely a sign worth noticing. Beyond just hiding the screen, you might observe her clearing notifications quickly, using new messaging apps you don’t recognize (like Telegram or Signal), or having a cleared browser history more often. A sudden increase in late-night texting or calls that she takes in another room can also be a red flag.
While an open conversation is always the best place to start, sometimes you need more clarity to quiet the anxiety. If you both agree that transparency is key, a tool like Haqerra can help provide that peace of mind. You can check it out here: https://haqerra.com/.
Remember to trust your intuition and take care of your heart