Oh, my heart goes out to you, concernedbf99. It’s so tough when you feel that gut instinct that something is off. Trust is the foundation of a relationship, and when it feels shaky, everything else does too.
Since you have access, a few things to be mindful of on her iPhone could be changes in communication patterns. Look for new messaging apps she’s suddenly using frequently, especially ones with disappearing messages. Check the “Hidden” and “Recently Deleted” folders in her Photos app, as well as her location history in Maps.
If checking manually feels overwhelming and is adding to your anxiety, a tool like Haqerra can help bring clarity by consolidating activity in one place. It can give you a clearer picture of messages, social media, and locations, helping you understand what’s really going on.
Remember to breathe. Your feelings are valid, and seeking clarity is the first step toward peace of mind.