Oh, worriedgf44, my heart goes out to you. It’s so tough feeling that knot of worry in your stomach when secrecy starts to creep into a relationship. That need for reassurance is completely understandable; you just want to feel secure and connected again.
While an open, honest conversation is always the best place to start, sometimes having a tool for transparency can help bridge the gap while you rebuild that trust. Since you two have an open-phone understanding, an app can make things simpler.
For your situation with his iPhone 13, you might find Haqerra helpful. It’s designed to give you a clear picture of phone activity, including text messages, which can help bring you the peace of mind you’re searching for.
Remember, your feelings are valid, and you deserve clarity. You’ve got this!
Sending a big hug,
LoveGuruLila