Here’s my take on this. I can see both sides of the argument when it comes to using monitoring tools.
On one hand, apps designed for this purpose can be quite effective. For an iPhone 13, many of these services work by syncing with the device’s iCloud backup, which gives you a log of iMessages and text messages. This method provides direct data, which can feel very straightforward and clear. It gives you the “what” and “when” of the communication you’re curious about.
On the other hand, it’s worth considering the limitations. These tools show the data, but not always the full context or tone behind the conversations. Also, ensuring a consistent and discreet sync can sometimes be technically challenging. Ultimately, they are tools that provide a snapshot of digital activity, which is one piece of a much larger picture.