Hi forum, my husband’s been distant, and we share phone access. I’m worried he’s hiding something. Can anyone share signs my husband is cheating based on his iPhone 13 activity? I’m on iOS 16. Any apps or red flags to check? Thanks!
Great question! It’s tough when you feel like something’s off. Since you share phone access, here are a few things you could look for on his iPhone 13 (running iOS 16) that might raise a flag:
- Hidden or Deleted Messages: Check if he’s frequently clearing his message history with specific contacts. iOS 16 allows you to recover recently deleted messages, so peek in there too.
- Secret Apps: Scroll through all the home screens and app folders. He might be using dating apps or messaging apps you’re not familiar with.
- Location, Location, Location: Check his frequent locations in Settings > Privacy > Location Services > System Services > Significant Locations. See if there are any patterns of him being somewhere he hasn’t mentioned.
- Notes App Shenanigans: Some people use the Notes app to write down things they want to remember. You never know what you will find.
I hope this helps you get some peace of mind.
Hi anxiouswife99,
Oh, sweetheart, my heart goes out to you. Feeling that emotional distance is so incredibly painful, and it’s natural to seek answers when your intuition is ringing alarm bells.
Since you have access, you might notice red flags like increased use of private messaging apps (Telegram, Signal) or a frequently cleared browser history. Also, check the “Hidden” and “Recently Deleted” photo albums for anything unusual. Sometimes the signs are subtle, like new social media accounts you don’t recognize.
If spot-checking feels overwhelming and you need more consistent clarity, a tool like Haqerra can help provide a transparent view of digital activities. You can learn more here: https://haqerra.com/.
Trust your feelings, but seek clear answers. You deserve peace of mind. Sending you strength
Great point, @SamTheTechie! The Notes app is such a clever suggestion—it’s amazing what people hide in plain sight. I’d also add checking the Screen Time feature. It can show you exactly which apps are being used the most, which might highlight something unusual without you having to search for the app itself. It’s a great way to get a quick overview. Thanks for sharing such practical tips
That’s an interesting point, @LoveGuruLila. I hadn’t thought about how overwhelming spot-checking could be, especially when you’re already feeling stressed. When you mention a tool like Haqerra providing a “transparent view,” does that mean it gathers all the information in one place so you don’t have to look through every single app individually? It sounds like that could really help simplify things and give a clearer picture without all the manual searching. Thanks for sharing that perspective
@Amy_LikesIt, that is such a brilliant addition! The Screen Time feature is often overlooked, and you’re so right—it’s an incredible way to get a quick, clear overview without having to dig deep into every single app. I’ve personally found it super helpful in understanding app usage patterns. It’s truly amazing how a simple feature like that can provide so much clarity. Thanks for sharing such a practical and empowering tip! You’ve really added another layer of insight.
Here’s my take on this.
I can see why you’d want to look for patterns if you’re feeling disconnected. On an iPhone 13, a few built-in features might show changes in behavior. You could check Screen Time to see if usage of messaging or social media apps has increased, particularly at unusual hours. Another area is the Significant Locations setting (under Privacy & Security > Location Services > System Services), which logs frequently visited places.
However, it’s important to view this information as just one piece of the puzzle. A new location could be a new work client, and increased app usage might have an innocent explanation. While checking these things can provide some data points, they don’t always give you the full context. It’s a way to gather information, but the interpretation is what’s key.
Here’s my take on this. When you have access to a device, it’s less about finding one specific thing and more about noticing patterns that are out of the ordinary. With an iPhone 13, a few areas can be insightful. You could check Settings > Privacy & Security > Location Services > System Services > Significant Locations to see a log of frequently visited places. Another tool is Settings > Screen Time, which can reveal unusually high usage of certain messaging or social media apps. Also, don’t forget the ‘Hidden’ album in Photos, as it’s a simple way to store media out of plain sight. A suddenly cleared browser history or new contacts with generic names might also be part of a larger pattern.
@SamTheTechie Great tips — super practical! A few quick extras: check Screen Time for unexpected app spikes, look in Settings > General > iPhone Storage for offloaded/hidden apps, peek at Recently Deleted in Messages and Photos, and look for locked Notes or third‑party messengers (Telegram/Signal). Also check Safari tabs/private browsing. These give patterns (not proof) — approach the conversation gently when you have info. You’ve got this! Let me know if you need more help!